Thursday, March 22, 2012

The Artistry of Love

Lolita has this quote on her blog: Friendship is the art of overlooking the shortcomings of others. I've been meditating on it.

And I've come to realize that not just friendship, but LOVE, itself, is the art of overlooking the shortcomings of others.  

In my BC years, I only saw only the negative, only the shortcomings in others. Somehow, it made me think I was better than I really was. I subconsciously compared my good soul to their outward behaviors, never to my own outward behaviors. This became my coping mechanism. But, it was the furthest thing from Love.

But, in my AD years, God has done so much healing of my wounded soul that I finally started to love myself. REALLY love myself - as I was.  Therefore, I was able to love others, even with their shortcomings, and to stop comparing my inwards to other's outwards.

Mom (Love Personified) had mastered the art of overlooking the shortcomings of others (me).  And because she was able to do that, I learned tangible, true Love. After all, doesn't Jesus Christ overlook our shortcomings?  Doesn't He still love us in spite of ourselves? And just as we are?

The artistry of LOVE is overlooking the shortcomings of others.

Because of Him and Unto Him,


Veronica Shticks said...

Aww, Diane, it's so hard to imagine you being anything but loving and forgiving! What a triumph of the soul! Inspiring lady! I also love how you herald the legacy of love practiced by your mom!

Pam said...

And even more beautiful to me is how God didn't just overlook our shortcomings, he made reparation for them himself so we could be free to receive His love. Beautiful post...and testimony to His love transforming you and bringing you glory to glory...

Martha Herden said...

I believe that God only added more shining beauty to that amazing heart of Love you have! You have no faults that I can see dear friend, and your words of hope, encouraging all of us to let Go and let God work in our lives-well its truly inspirational and I am so proud to know you and have you in my "circle of Friends."

God blessed me with you-I have no doubts about that. You lift me up and give me such love-no strings attached. What a blessing. I pray that I can learn from your example of true, genuine LOVE.

God bless you dear friend. Martha

Lolita said...

You are love personified, my dear "circle of friends" initiator Diane.

For as far as the heavens is to earth, as wide as the universe and as deep as the God's love is to us, who has made us as white as snow. He has erased all of our inequities when we placed them upon His cross.

Now this love you have is new love from God.... and you are sharing this agape love to all of us, extravagantly. It is having your much loved "ripple effect" in the blog world.

Thank you and to God, and to all my loving friends.

A Joyful Noise said...

Excellent Post. I like the way you have summed up Love, by reminding us that it is overlooking the shortcomings of others. We must love ourselves too and forgive our own shortcommings.

Diane Ronzino said...

Thank you all for your wonderful words. I do appreciate them. I didn't write the post, however, for any kind of accolade. Therefore, I don't really know how to respond.

Martha, you don't see faults because you don't live with me (LOL); you only know me through my heart.

The inner man can be so different than the outer man. I'm still a work in progress like us all. Just because I understand this principle about love, doesn't mean it comes naturally to me. I must work at it like most do.

Hazel, you are most right. We must give ourselves grace with our own shortcomings, which I'm trying to do now. LOL...

But, I bless God that He has brought you guys into my life - those who edify and build up (Eph. 4:12). For that is Love in action.

Can I call this the "Circle of Lovers" ? OK, NOW THAT WAS MEANT TO BE A FUNNY!

Anonymous said...

Diane, Thank you for the insight, not that I didn't "know", but much harder for me in practice. I certainly look way too much at the shortcomings of others esp. the ones closest too me. I have even tried to fix them! I know what I really need to do is accept myself and others. Bill

Diane Ronzino said...

Bill, thank you so much for your transparency and posting a comment.

I know what you mean about trying to fix others. I was the queen of fixers. But, I FINALLY learned that I cannot "fix" anyone except myself. And that has been my life-long goal. And it started with coming to a place of accepting myself (with all my flaws) and choosing to see myself as God sees me, as He tells me in His Word. When I finally did that, the self-love flowed.

I can see positive changes in you from your writings at our writer's workshops. You have grown tremendously. It has been wonderful to observe. You are on the right road, Bill, just in realizing you need to accept yourself.

You see, God loves you, Bill, just as you are. Religion may tell us we have to clean up our act to come to God, but God never says that to us. He tells us that He loves us and accepts us exactly as we are. He loves us enough to desire for us to be better human beings; to change for the positive. And so He leads us on that path of healing our wounded souls so that we can be kinder, more accepting, more loving human beings.

May I encourage you to trust God? His Word says that He will complete the good work He has begun in us. HE will do it. He started the work, He will complete it. We just need to take His Hand and allow Him to guide and lead us.

It is a wonderful journey with The LORD. He does cause us to look at ourselves - not others - to see where we need to change. When we get to a place of asking Him to change us, He then, graciously, oh, so graciously and lovingly, works those changes in us. Sometimes, we kick and scream, but if we really want to change, God will do it.

Truly, thank you for commenting. Thank you for reading. It is my hope that what you read here will encourage and strengthen you somehow; and maybe cause you to be hungry for a deeper knowledge of The Lord Jesus Christ.

I will be praying for you, Bill.

God bless you.